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LOST: About Last Night

Let’s start off with a bit of honesty: the finale wasn’t what anyone was expecting. Loyal viewers were left confused about what they had just experienced, spiteful towards the show’s creators who promised fuckloads of answers and produced practically none; but what we all received was a conclusion…an ending to a six-year journey…and whether you approve or not, whatever happened happened.

Seldom has any long-running television show provided a wholly satisfying conclusion that everyone accepts entirely without question or concern. Unlike a film, where the viewer only invests 90-120 minutes of their oh-so-precious time, a television show of considerable length and depth leaves the audience expecting unrealistic and improbable levels of satiation that will ultimately leave them feeling (at best) short-changed.

LOST was no exception, but it was bittersweet–leaving my stomach temporarily satisfied, but after lying down in bed, I was already hungry for more.

The news highlighted the outrage and confusion–talking heads singing a choir of “WTF?”

As expressed by Co-Creator Damon Lindelof, at its core, LOST is a “character study.” The at-times overwhelmingly paradoxical themes of psychology, theoretical physics, religion, and philosophy served to create these “unanswerable questions” that both the viewers, cast, and characters they portrayed simply have to accept as truth. And after several moments of being utterly perplexed, I came to a rational conclusion that seemed to work, and I was filled to the brim with acceptance.

So here’s what we “know”–or at least what we can reach a relatively reasonable conclusion about:

The plane crash and the life (and death) on the island and off the island was the living world for the characters we all grew to love over the past 6 seasons.

The 6th season provided us with a “Flash Sideways” series of events which we were all lead to believe was an alternate life for the characters had they never crash landed on the time-traveling, disappearing island.

The conclusion showed us that the alternate time-line was actually an afterlife for all of these characters which they had intentionally created (in their respective subconscious) postmortem as a way of being together again, remembering their existence, and “moving on” to whatever else awaited them in (let’s say) heaven.

Some of them died earlier in the time-line (Shannon and Boone, Juliette, Christian Shepherd). Some died later on (Jin and Sun, John Locke, Sayid, Jack). And some will eventually have died–later in life (Hurley, Sawyer, Kate, Ben Linus, etc).

As the afterlife has no “time,” they all exist in a moment of subconscious–a dream–no matter when they actually passed away.

Aside from the several insights we attained into what exactly was going on with the Island, Jacob, and the Smoke Monster, we were not given too many definitive “answers.”

The show put forth a series of twisted psychological and sci-fi elements that we, as the audience, are meant to simply accept as part of the show.

The characters never got any closure on what was actually going on–so neither did the audience.

Most of this is only left up to our interpretation; however, it is implied that if the promise of “saving humanity by pressing a button” or “guarding a light/plugging a hole to keep the evil from escaping” was enough to the castaways to stick their necks out, we should just accept it.

We were offered several characters with paranormal abilities (Desmond, Miles, Hurley) which we accepted as part of the show. After all, in a world where a pillar of black smoke can end all of humanity, who are we to question the little things?

Desmond’s story was perhaps the strangest–as it is never truly explained why he becomes such an important force on the island.

By the end, we are meant to see Desmond as a man who can travel between times and dimensions–and because he has seen the other side, he knows that nothing that happens on the island actually “matters” as these characters will all be together in eternal happiness.

Essentially, his character in the 6th Season represents the philosophy that: “If you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that there is an afterlife where you and everyone you love will share eternity, why would anything that happens in on Earth actually matter?”

This is why Desmond says that it makes no difference who wins, who lives, and who dies.

The series was breathtaking. Only once in a lifetime does a long-running television show have such an impact on the lives of so many. The acting, the humor, the drama, and the emotion was surreal–and this is why the ending, while certainly up for interpretation, fit so well with the overarching themes of the entire series.

It made us laugh, cry, and never disappointed. If you’re glad the show is over because now people will stop talking about it, guess again.

If you’ve gone out of your way to stay away from the show because of all the hype, you’re most likely that cunt everyone knows who only listens to music that no one else ever heard of.

The show isn’t for everyone, but it certainly doesn’t attempt to be…and if you’re too broad to appreciate everything that LOST has accomplished, there’s always Two and a Half Men.

Amen.

Alex G/

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Porn Girl Bella Bellini’s The Psychology of the Voyeur

bellabellinicopyI’ve been working as a camgirl for the past two years and just recently launched my own adult website that is owned and operated by me at www.missbellabellini.com. But I also have a degree in psychology and could register as a psychologist where I live if I decided to go back to school for another year or so and leave the wonderful world of porn behind.

I’m very open with my members and the people I meet on webcam, so most of them know that I’m a few credits short of shrink status. One of the most common questions I get besides what my bra size is, or if I do anal, is whether I’m analyzing my members or using them as some kind of clandestine research project.

Now while I can totally guarantee that I’m not doing research on the perverted mind (because I would hate to ruin a good, fun thing like porn with boring academia), I can’t say that my background in psychology doesn’t help me a lot in my daily life as a cam girl.

For example, many of my favourite customers have fetishes. I have one regular with a foot fetish who loves to spend regular hourly privates with the soles of my feet pointed directly at the camera and zoomed almost all the way in while I tell him how good it would feel to have him slowly suck each one of my toes.

Another guy is too shy to tell his wife that he gets a thrill from seeing women’s legs in pantyhose, so it is easier to come spend time with me to see me stroke the silky tights on my legs and snap the nylon waist band against my skin.

None of my friends are in the adult industry and most don’t have a background in psychology, so I know fetishes like these might sound strange to them. But for me I know that fetishes develop from a natural conditioned response that occurs during adolescence when sexual arousal occurs in the presence of an object, like pantyhose.

People with fetishes might feel shame because society doesn’t accept their special tendencies. And while they might be met with acceptance in a psychologist’s office, a usual therapy session doesn’t usually include an orgasm;) So consider that little ‘perk’ the next time you are considering seeing a professional about a fetish. I can definitely recommend choosing your friendly online camgirl!

Bella Bellini

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Thoughts from an Insomniac

DaveI have an appointment tomorrow at Drexel University’s Sleep Center (although I realized that both times i heard confirmation voicemails from them, it was for different times…) so I thought I’d highlight (and lowlight) some of the many interesting things involved with not being able to sleep at night (or during the day).  Hmm…how about the ole…tangentially related picture with a snappy caption, short paragraph and a bolded pro/con decision at the end. Yes, that’ll do nicely!

Tired, baby!

Tired, baby!

Sleepiness- Ok, starting with the obvious here.  Not sleeping makes you really really tired throughout the day.  Sleepy means you don’t pay attention to things like you should, you get irritated easily, and strangely enough, often leads you gain weight.  Apparently, when you don’t get sleep, your body craves junk food for the quick calories. Hmm, yes, that’s my excuse…CON

 

Also makes juienne fries!!

Also makes juienne fries!!

Freetime- People who don’t sleep at night tend to have a lot of extra time on their hands. The picture above is of a potato gun.  I tend to watch On Demand and browse Wikipedia. By now, I have finished the internet. PRO

 

If there were ever a campaign to keep kids off drugs, this should be it...

If there were ever a campaign to keep kids off drugs, this should be it...

 

 

Drugs- There are as many different treatments for insomnia as there are sufferers.  Every single person is different, and nothing works the same for two people. Here are my experiences:

Warm milk: Not effective, gave me a tummy ache. Tasty with cookies.

Booze: Effective at falling asleep, very bad for staying asleep. Bad for the liver.

Valarian/Catnip/Sleepytime Teas: Cheap, tastes pretty good with
honey. Mostly psychological, I think. Minimally effective, makes you have to pee in the middle of the night.

Benedryl: Works quickly, but leaves terrible grogginess in the morning. DOES clear up seasonal allergies.

Melatonin: Natural, available OTC from Wal-Mart. Very slightly effective if I take like 4 or 5.

Mirapex: For the jimmy legs. Successful, but only for that. Can’t just start or stop without some weird side effects. No cool side effects like sleepwalking or gambling.

Rozarem: Sucked. Made insomnia much much worse. Couldn’t fall asleep, couldn’t stay asleep. Only used samples, so it was free.

Ambian: Really cheap, works like a champ IF I USE IT FOR ONE NIGHT.  If not, crazy depression.  If taken and sleep doesn’t occur, very odd side effects. Sort of like your brain turns off but your body keeps a’movin.

Lunesta: Oh, Lunesta.  You worked so well for the first few weeks. Very expensive, even with insurance.  Puts you to sleep fast. Seems like the opposite of Ambian, mind stays awake, body goes to sleep. Fine with me, but apparently causes weird pillowtalk conversations. And not the good kind, the silly, semi-coherent kind.  It stopped working after a few weeks, unfortunately. I wonder if I took it now, if it would work again.

So basically, my drug experience hasn’t been too successful. I think, though, if I saw a commercial for a treatment, my regular doctor would consider letting me try it.  But for now, the Sleep Center says no pharmaceuticals for sleep.  Just cognitive behavioral therapy. And that works, sort of, at least for now. Scientology can suck it (I say as I hide behind the couch).

Interesting side note…if I lived in California, I would be able to access medical marijuana dispensaries for my chronic insomnia. WASH

 

So…basically, anything else I could possibly think that would be related would probably fit into one of those three topics.  Staying up all night on the computer lets you download great new music and movies, but encourages you to buy shit you don’t need from SlickDeals

Some consider drugs fun for a while, but they just make the problem worse, eventually (although I’ve never been to California…).  And being sleepy makes  you cranky. It sucks. We’ll see how the big doctor’s appointment goes tomorrow with the sleep psychologist (again, suck it, followers of Elron).

Maybe I’ll update with more witticisms and picture links later tonight, if I can’t sleep…

 

-philamaneto

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*Update*

So, it appears that this post has attracted 56 comments, all of them spam. I’d like to think that it’s because I made fun of scientology. Maybe that will attract some extra traffic to the site. Or get us all murdered. Either way….

 

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